My Dear John Letter to Alcohol Telling booze goodbye is a good way to by Julia Lawrinson Black Bear

Thanks to this new love, I was changing, and you couldn’t come along with me on this journey. I was going on a journey to myself, to the ME you had always kept from me. I left behind a lot of baggage when I started on this path, and you are part of that. This friend showed me some of the flaws in our relationship. The way that all my problems seemed not to end, but to begin with you. The fact that I couldn’t experience friendship without you.

  • I was foolish to think that our relationship would continue and continue well.
  • Yep, you ignited that on way too many occasions.
  • But yes, to follow this process, we highly recommend that you create an actual letter, and address the reader (in this case, this would be the drink).
  • You promised you’d keep me safe, that nothing would hurt.

So many people were hurt by our toxic relationship. So much time wasted and money spent chasing a dream, a high, an ideal state of being that, with you, was never going to exist, ever. I tried to make room for you in my life but you wanted every part of it. All my mornings spent cursing you in sickening physical, mental and emotional pain. All my nights in foggy vagaries of distraction leading to numbness and always ending in darkness.

I’m an introvert and get flustered in these situations

I hate to tell you, but no one starts out their relationship to you with the idea that you will one day control their entire way of life. I have to hand it to you in that you have a very charismatic way about you. Luring us in with your promises of a good time and that you’ll take away all our worries.

goodbye letter to alcohol

My relationship with you, Addiction, made me a trophy of grace. Relationships have been restored, and new ones have begun. I’ve said goodbye to relationships that held me back and hello to ones that push me to be the best version of myself.

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Download, print, and share unlimited copies of custom worksheets. Use custom worksheets for the purpose of education and treatment. If I had stayed with you, I would have taken my life; I needed to leave you to survive. When I was at my lowest point, I believed suicide was the answer to remove all the hurt I’ve been harbouring — a way to escape from this life we created.

It was suggested to me to write a break-up letter to alcohol and lay out my feelings, thoughts and memories on my relationship with alcohol. As putting pen to paper makes things a lot more real in deeply personal work like this I sat on it for a long time. The next step after writing it was to read it out loud and share it with someone else. In our episode entitled I is for It’s so hard to say goodbye to alcohol we did just that.

Good Bye Break-Up Letter to Alcohol

When I first met you at the ripe age of 15, I had no idea what an impact you would make on my life – and not the good kind, unfortunately. Second, this is an activity that they do in every rehabilitation center because it’s effective. You see that your relationship is becoming toxic and you want to end it before things get worse.

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I write about it a lot. Here’s what you don’t know.

I’ve always feel a bit odd about writing unsent letters in therapy. I find the process artificial, and sometimes inhibiting. Your goodbye letter can come in handy in the future. When things get tough in your recovery process, you can read the letter to remind yourself why you decided to get sober in the first place. This might provide the extra motivation you need to stay on track and avoid a relapse. And the more honest you are towards yourself, the more of a useful tool you will find it.

This has to be the most challenging letter I’ve ever written. It’s as if I’m breaking up with a long term partner. You were with me through thick and thin, the good times and the bad times. From my teenage years through to my thirties, from England to New Zealand and all the places in-between.

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